5 Elements

         What makes up a good relationship? Well, I've been thinking how to deliver this one and express my point of view on the elements that make up a good relationship for dating couples. Actually, I have learned the five (5) most important elements to have a strong relationship.

Patience

"Patience brings things worth waiting for."

         Love is a tricky thing. It's not acquired just like a cookie from the cookie jar. It needs some effort to work it out and PATIENCE is one of it. Finding a partner is also a matter of patience. Waiting for your other half requires patience. I've learned PATIENCE because of LOVE. Love comes in unexpected time and it's own way. When love comes, patience is the key to getting what you wanted all along. Some are aggressive and abrupt but this won't give them the greatest satisfaction in love and life. Patience is a virtue but time is gold, as we say, but still patience molds a good relationship as it gives couples the time to know each other, settle the differences and nurture the similarities. Be patient when planning new seeds in your life, you can see a flower bloom only after tender loving care over time.  Then when the time is right it will bloom! And don't ever lose your patience to your partners because this only means that you're not strong enough to handle the battles that your relationship may encounter along the road. 

Understanding

"Love is not the lack of ones faults, but rather knowing each others faults, understanding them, and loving in spite of them..." 

         When you have learned how to be patient, you will also learn how to understand your partner. Both of you has differences and these sometimes causes ruckus on the relationship. Without this element, you will not be able to contemplate on what is the right thing to do and what are the actions to be done. Both of you need to understand the point of views of each other and take these points as a guiding path to your relationship. Understanding must be present on both because it's useless if only one is working on it. One-sided again? That's sick. Men need to understand that women need to vent emotions. They don't want you to fix what is bothering them; listen and show that you care. You understand Love when you come to the realization that you can love someone even if they don't love you back. Love is a  gift that need not be returned. With UNDERSTANDING comes FORGIVENESS.

Respect

"A lack of appreciation & respect can all too quickly kill a relationship.  It is not selfish to want to be respected and treated right."

        Again, we are different from each other. We have our own way of reasoning, way of understanding things and appreciating what's around us. As a couple, it doesn't require that everything should be spilled out. Both of you still have your RIGHT TO PRIVACY. Okay? There are some things that should be kept to ourselves also. Respect your partner as you respect yourselves, parents and friends (unless you already lost it). Your partner is your other half. What you feel, they feel it too. You don't have the right to judge their decisions unless it's for the better. One sign of respect is sharing to your partner what you have done the whole day. Giving them the idea how well you did that day. Keep your moments to yourself such as fights and problems. Never insult your partner when your angry, respect them. Remember, guys you courted the girls to get their heart and girls you fell for your guy and gave them their chance for your love. Judging them only means you're taking them for granted. Respect your partner's decision, you can advice or direct them that may affect the decision their going to make but take note, they have that final say not yours. Your partners will open up at the right moment, the right time.

Trust

"TRUST is the base of any relationship, always be careful before doing any little act because just a missing "T" can RUST the relationship...

          This element makes the relationship work stronger. Have you ever heard any relationship that became successful WITHOUT TRUST? It's a pathetic relationship right? Trust is the foundation of a successful relationship. Trusting one means you're making him or her a part of yourself.  This requires two people to show the real meaning of the word. This allows us to break down the wall that we were building around us and determine who are those who cares enough and are worthy enough to break it down. Some of us have the tendency to doubt our partner's actions and words but building a trust is a step towards winning a friend, a listener and an adviser. Make your self trustworthy also. Keep what should be kept, don't cheat or lie, don't make your partner feel that you can't be trusted, don't pretend because TRUST is a FRAGILE thing, easy to break, easy to lose, very hard to get back, so never take for granted those that trust you. Even TRUST condoms are not that trustworthy but prove to your partner the YOU as a person is worthy of their trust. Trust is build for months and can be easily break for seconds only, so why not try to build your trust to each other and flourish it for a lifetime.

This is the final one! (Yes, I did it!)




Love ♥

"True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly."

       LOVE! The core of everything. Why do we love a person? Because of their personality? Looks? Popularity? Money? Property? How do we define it? We have different definition of love. The greatest love ever known was the love Jesus Christ had for us. Unconditional love as we call it. It's giving love without rules or condition. A complete giving and sacrificing of the self. We should also be giving the same love to our partners. Love is a feeling, yes it is, but it is a feeling that resides deep within us. Love is an ability. Ability to love means the ability to open up to people and to the person you choose to love. If we compare a relationship to a food, love is the SPICE that makes the recipe complete. Love is accepting the person of who he/she is. Love comes to your door without notifications. Now here's a list of the dos and don'ts in Love. 

Love's Dos and Don'ts

• Never ever go to bed mad at your mate, sleep on the couch if you have to: the bedroom should be a safe, wonderful, and enjoyable place to go to.
• Pick your fights, ask yourself if this is something that is going to matter in 5 years, if not let it go.
• Do not speak when you are mad, wait until you calm down enough to talk, take a walk, a long bath, or whatever you do to calm down, and always, always, always stick to the subject, and do not ever attack their personal feelings, they have just as much right to them as you do to yours.
• When you go out, always allow partner first, a lady can open a door for a man just as easily especially if his hands are full.
• Ask for their opinion on stuff, if they don't have one, do not badger one out, it will only start a fight over nothing.
• Tell your partner often that you love them, I try for at least 10 times a day, even if they are right after another.
• If you find that you are both getting in a rut and nothing seems to be as spontaneous as it once was, first talk then think of some action to take.
• Surprise them often with different comments, once I told my husband that I didn't think that I loved him anymore, after a mil-a-second I said that I knew that I loved him and I didn't have to guess, that was a wonderful evening.
• Always try to understand what they are saying. And if your partner likes a certain type of sport, try to learn what the sport is about and the names of the teams and you never know you might actually like it once you understand it.
• Show your love in the way that you take care of yourself, your partner, your children, your home your job, you would be surprising how well that works.
• This is the easiest one of all and I think more people should follow it, the world would truly be a better place. Laugh, yes just that. Laugh at least once a day. It's good for you and those around you.

(credits to Prerna Salla, http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/1-13-2005-64117.asp) 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
I Cor. 13:4-8

Be in love with your partner everyday, even if it takes forever!

Enjoy reading! :)