5 Elements

         What makes up a good relationship? Well, I've been thinking how to deliver this one and express my point of view on the elements that make up a good relationship for dating couples. Actually, I have learned the five (5) most important elements to have a strong relationship.

Patience

"Patience brings things worth waiting for."

         Love is a tricky thing. It's not acquired just like a cookie from the cookie jar. It needs some effort to work it out and PATIENCE is one of it. Finding a partner is also a matter of patience. Waiting for your other half requires patience. I've learned PATIENCE because of LOVE. Love comes in unexpected time and it's own way. When love comes, patience is the key to getting what you wanted all along. Some are aggressive and abrupt but this won't give them the greatest satisfaction in love and life. Patience is a virtue but time is gold, as we say, but still patience molds a good relationship as it gives couples the time to know each other, settle the differences and nurture the similarities. Be patient when planning new seeds in your life, you can see a flower bloom only after tender loving care over time.  Then when the time is right it will bloom! And don't ever lose your patience to your partners because this only means that you're not strong enough to handle the battles that your relationship may encounter along the road. 

Understanding

"Love is not the lack of ones faults, but rather knowing each others faults, understanding them, and loving in spite of them..." 

         When you have learned how to be patient, you will also learn how to understand your partner. Both of you has differences and these sometimes causes ruckus on the relationship. Without this element, you will not be able to contemplate on what is the right thing to do and what are the actions to be done. Both of you need to understand the point of views of each other and take these points as a guiding path to your relationship. Understanding must be present on both because it's useless if only one is working on it. One-sided again? That's sick. Men need to understand that women need to vent emotions. They don't want you to fix what is bothering them; listen and show that you care. You understand Love when you come to the realization that you can love someone even if they don't love you back. Love is a  gift that need not be returned. With UNDERSTANDING comes FORGIVENESS.

Respect

"A lack of appreciation & respect can all too quickly kill a relationship.  It is not selfish to want to be respected and treated right."

        Again, we are different from each other. We have our own way of reasoning, way of understanding things and appreciating what's around us. As a couple, it doesn't require that everything should be spilled out. Both of you still have your RIGHT TO PRIVACY. Okay? There are some things that should be kept to ourselves also. Respect your partner as you respect yourselves, parents and friends (unless you already lost it). Your partner is your other half. What you feel, they feel it too. You don't have the right to judge their decisions unless it's for the better. One sign of respect is sharing to your partner what you have done the whole day. Giving them the idea how well you did that day. Keep your moments to yourself such as fights and problems. Never insult your partner when your angry, respect them. Remember, guys you courted the girls to get their heart and girls you fell for your guy and gave them their chance for your love. Judging them only means you're taking them for granted. Respect your partner's decision, you can advice or direct them that may affect the decision their going to make but take note, they have that final say not yours. Your partners will open up at the right moment, the right time.

Trust

"TRUST is the base of any relationship, always be careful before doing any little act because just a missing "T" can RUST the relationship...

          This element makes the relationship work stronger. Have you ever heard any relationship that became successful WITHOUT TRUST? It's a pathetic relationship right? Trust is the foundation of a successful relationship. Trusting one means you're making him or her a part of yourself.  This requires two people to show the real meaning of the word. This allows us to break down the wall that we were building around us and determine who are those who cares enough and are worthy enough to break it down. Some of us have the tendency to doubt our partner's actions and words but building a trust is a step towards winning a friend, a listener and an adviser. Make your self trustworthy also. Keep what should be kept, don't cheat or lie, don't make your partner feel that you can't be trusted, don't pretend because TRUST is a FRAGILE thing, easy to break, easy to lose, very hard to get back, so never take for granted those that trust you. Even TRUST condoms are not that trustworthy but prove to your partner the YOU as a person is worthy of their trust. Trust is build for months and can be easily break for seconds only, so why not try to build your trust to each other and flourish it for a lifetime.

This is the final one! (Yes, I did it!)




Love ♥

"True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly."

       LOVE! The core of everything. Why do we love a person? Because of their personality? Looks? Popularity? Money? Property? How do we define it? We have different definition of love. The greatest love ever known was the love Jesus Christ had for us. Unconditional love as we call it. It's giving love without rules or condition. A complete giving and sacrificing of the self. We should also be giving the same love to our partners. Love is a feeling, yes it is, but it is a feeling that resides deep within us. Love is an ability. Ability to love means the ability to open up to people and to the person you choose to love. If we compare a relationship to a food, love is the SPICE that makes the recipe complete. Love is accepting the person of who he/she is. Love comes to your door without notifications. Now here's a list of the dos and don'ts in Love. 

Love's Dos and Don'ts

• Never ever go to bed mad at your mate, sleep on the couch if you have to: the bedroom should be a safe, wonderful, and enjoyable place to go to.
• Pick your fights, ask yourself if this is something that is going to matter in 5 years, if not let it go.
• Do not speak when you are mad, wait until you calm down enough to talk, take a walk, a long bath, or whatever you do to calm down, and always, always, always stick to the subject, and do not ever attack their personal feelings, they have just as much right to them as you do to yours.
• When you go out, always allow partner first, a lady can open a door for a man just as easily especially if his hands are full.
• Ask for their opinion on stuff, if they don't have one, do not badger one out, it will only start a fight over nothing.
• Tell your partner often that you love them, I try for at least 10 times a day, even if they are right after another.
• If you find that you are both getting in a rut and nothing seems to be as spontaneous as it once was, first talk then think of some action to take.
• Surprise them often with different comments, once I told my husband that I didn't think that I loved him anymore, after a mil-a-second I said that I knew that I loved him and I didn't have to guess, that was a wonderful evening.
• Always try to understand what they are saying. And if your partner likes a certain type of sport, try to learn what the sport is about and the names of the teams and you never know you might actually like it once you understand it.
• Show your love in the way that you take care of yourself, your partner, your children, your home your job, you would be surprising how well that works.
• This is the easiest one of all and I think more people should follow it, the world would truly be a better place. Laugh, yes just that. Laugh at least once a day. It's good for you and those around you.

(credits to Prerna Salla, http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/1-13-2005-64117.asp) 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
I Cor. 13:4-8

Be in love with your partner everyday, even if it takes forever!

Enjoy reading! :)

The Fiction Goes On... A Start of New Fairytale

Sequel to When Fan Fiction Comes to Life

             Once upon a warm day of November, 27th to be exact, fairy godmother chatted the princess through Facebook. **Fairy Godmothers are now tech geeks so don't ask** 

              Fairy godmother asked the princess to watch Happy Feet 2. A movie about those cute, tiny weeny penguins. It's a YES of course. It's a break from all the school stress we were experiencing and from all the dramas that the princess have been through after that ridiculous heartbreak. She arrived at the Cinema ahead of her fairy godmother. Take note, her fairy godmother has also a cellphone. She told her that she was accompanied by two mighty coachmen. The more the merrier! She arrived with dazzling aura and with her coachmen tailing behind her. One of them was the princess' friend and the other one was unknown. He reminded her of someone. One of her ill-fated romance. This coachman looks grumpy, it felt like Snow White meets Grumpy! 

             Fairy godmother introduced him to the princess to establish a connection and the network of LOVE started there. It was the time for them to witness that unforgettable movie (well for her and fairy godmother). The noble coachman and fairy godmother has to sit beside each other while Grumpy and her on both ends. Like a hidden wicked spell, fairy godmother felt ill in the middle of the movie! The noble coachman went hysterical trying to make fairy godmother feel better while the princess and Grumpy has to watch the two of them and try to help sometimes. The night passed and they all went back to our own places. Days went by and the four of them would randomly meet up at other palace garden (just to make it look beautiful because it only a piazza). Day by day the noble coachman and fairy godmother would tease the princess and Grumpy. He would still have that grumpy face. And he princess, on the other hand, started to feel different. 

          The princess would often go and sometimes sleep on fairy godmother's haven and talk for hours! Fairy godmother sensed her interest to Grumpy. She told her stories about him, they were actually childhood friends! Thanks to that because she learned a lot about him. She told her how cold Grumpy is to people he doesn't really know. It was a challenge. Day by day, the princess found herself trying to reach out to Grumpy and make him warm up towards her and she also found herself being released from that tight rope of her one-sided love. Grumpy would sometimes give her that lingering stares that makes heart beat faster than it's normal rate and her assuming condition attacked again (Assumera si Princess! ^^)

              The princess' birthday was coming up. They planned out the event with her new found friends as her visitors. Invitation were sent out and the noble coachman and Grumpy also received one. On the day, The princess was surprised with the balloons, thanks to the effort of Grumpy and the noble coachman. They were out for dinner and she could feel that Grumpy had already soften up to her. Fairy godmother had a deal with the princess to list down all the events that she feels special and when she surpasses the 100 events, it means that Grumpy was the one for her.

            The princess was a damsel in distress, she don't want history to repeat itself. Grumpy wasn't showing any affection towards her and she decided to end it as soon as possible. But the princess was a believer, she prayed to her God to give her a sign and He answered it before the set deadline. She continued to like Grumpy and he was still the same for her. The princess and fairy godmother plans out an ice cream date every week to gather all the comrades including Grumpy. This became a habit to all of them. The princess still feels that falling for Grumpy was a bad idea. She asked again of another sign and still it was answered immediately. Fairy godmother and the princess went crazy. Twice in a row and all came true. But the princess and fairy godmother have to leave the kingdom because they were running out of time. The princess hates goodbyes, so again she asked for one last wish for her to hold onto Grumpy.

                 There was a ball, the princess and fairy godmother has to attend the ball together with Tinkerbell (okay, just bear with it, it's starting to be hilarious because of the choice of characters). The princess was starting to feel the pain of leaving Grumpy, so she told fairy godmother to invite Grumpy and the noble coachman to another party. Fairy godmother agreed on the plan and they went to another kingdom. Grumpy guided the princess who was wearing a 4-inched stilettos. They walked behind fairy godmother, the noble coachman, Tinkerbell, Peter Pan, the pirate and the two fairies. They talked that night. The princess felt that Grumpy was transforming into her handsome prince. Grumpy felt protective over her and he showed her his true intentions. That night was a dream come true for the princess and Prince Charming didn't let go of her hand as he comfortably sleeps on her lap.

                The princess and fairy godmother stared at the hour glass. A little amount of sand is left and they will be disappearing. Both of them has the passion to sing their throats out so they decided to have another night out. Tinkerbell and Peter Pan were invited. It was a triple date. The princess and Prince Charming, fairy godmother and the noble coachman, and Tinkerbell and Peter Pan. Off they went to find a Neorebang (karaoke, in Korean...). And because of that night out, Prince Charming and the princess spilled out their feelings for each other. Fairy godmother also found out about the true feelings of the noble coachman towards her. Tinkerbell and Peter Pan were still the bickering kids of the group. Again, Prince Charming took that moment to hold the princess' hand as he runs off to dreamland.

                The day came! The princess, fairy godmother, and Tinkerbell bids farewell to the kingdom. Prince Charming was about to go to a mission but postponed it to witness the departure of the princess. He confessed to the princess and the princess was absolutely happy! The royal family came and Prince Charming was put into the hot seat. He has to undergo a series of tests to prove his love to the princess. "Wait for me." That's what he told her. The princess was very willing to wait for her prince. The prince showed his love to the princess in front of her siblings. He was the man that the princess was looking for. A man who isn't afraid to show his affection and love to her. Prince Charming passed the first test. Both of them has to be separated for few days. Prince Charming said the three words that the princess was dying to hear.

              Days passed and the princess was invited to the kingdom of Prince Charming. He promised her one thing when she arrives in the kingdom and she was anticipating for this. The noble coachman and Peter Pan and fairy godmother were also there since it was their home. The princess and Tinkerbell were the major visitors of the kingdom. Prince Charming welcomed her with a kiss. The princess' dreaded day came when she met the Queen but felt relieved when she felt the warmth on her face. The princess also met her fairy godmother's trusted friend who asked if the princess and Prince Charming were already dating. The princess' visit was nearly over and still Prince Charming didn't do his promise. Prince Charming made the princess mad on the last day of the visit. Prince Charming wasn't talking to her either, so the princess tried to talk first and they made up. The night was nearly over and Prince Charming decided to tour the princess riding his yellow horse (okay, it's a motor bike). He asked the most awaited question and the princess tried not to jump on the running horse. She held on tightly onto waist and answered it. The night went beautifully as two new lovers were drawn into the blanket of stars in the sky.

                The princess got her prince. And each day Prince Charming never fails to make her feel so loved even though they can't see each other often. They doesn't have to be together always just to prove their love for each other. Both royal families were good about the relationship thus, there's no problem anymore. No secrets to be kept. Prince Charming was the princess' answered prayer. All things she did for the first time was with her prince. Now, the princess couldn't ask for more. Love is in the air, hearts all over the room. 

Risking is worth the wait. He is worth the wait and the risk. My Prince Charming.

And on the days we've been together, love was there.

On the days we will be together this love will be stronger as ever.

I'm so in love with Grumpy, my Prince Charming... 

When Fan Fictions Comes to Life

                Everyone of us dream of a fairytale love story, right? Well, mine is different because of my KPOP addiction, I dreamed of making my love story a reality based on fan fictions. Well, you can't blame me because the people behind those stories made it SUPER BELIEVABLE that you could imagine yourself on the feet of the main character paired with your favorite KPOP Idol.

            Fan Fictions saved me actually from drowning myself into the depths of depression. Yes, as in LOVE DEPRESSION. Crazy as it may seems but I did felt all the emotions inside that multi-chapter stories. ONE-SIDED LOVE, I got that term from fan fictions. What is ONE-SIDED LOVE? It is secretly loving a person without getting love in return. Well, it seems that I'm the main character now and I'm writing the plot of my own Fan Fiction based on true story.

            What is the feeling of having a one-sided love? IT HURTS LIKE HELL! Why? Because YOU DON'T HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS TO OWN THE PERSON. All you can do is to sit back there, be a friend and that's it you can have all the happiness you want because you're with him. That's what more important, to have him by your side always. GIVE AND GIVE, I did that just to get the person I love to stay by my side. I went overboard. I caught this "ASSUMING CONDITION" for the past two years. Yeah, I've been a fool for whole two years. I've never felt ever in my life to love someone unconditionally. To embrace someone even it means I have to sacrifice everything around me. Why wouldn't I assume when he gives me back those sweet gestures I am showing him, carries my things everyday, be alone with him during weekends and go home late at night, and we even share the same group of friends that makes us technically classmates, seatmates and groupmates. How fantastic isn't it? Whoa! 

           Months passed I was ridiculously INSPIRED which came to a moment that I almost became excellent in my studies. Thank you to my true inspiration! I could die of happiness. We have these SKINSHIPS already (thanks to fan fiction for the word) that makes me assume that he felt the same way. Definitely crazy but I did bought him to my house. But still we're not together. Next, on the field trip day I felt that I needed to take my time and think of myself now. I prayed and asked for an answer "SHOULD I STILL ALLOW MYSELF TO HOLD ON TO HIM?" and the answer comes in bean-shaped, split in half wood. A devastating NO. I was spilling my tears while on tour and all that time he thought I was just sick. Well, blame it to yourself dude! I did get angry but I realized I shouldn't because all of that time I was the one working for that love not him. Did I mention that i became unproductive because of being brokenhearted? Definitely, PATHETIC. 

                 After this disastrous love story, I have to face the two-faced bitch (Sorry for the term) who tries to make me damn jealous because she got my supposed-to-be prince charming. Oh well, in every love story there will always be that evil witch. But I cared less. Why? Because somewhere down that alley of a mall, I met the lost prince that would saved me from this unfortunate event in my life. And there the real story begins.

To be continued...

Spell Lucky for Me!

***As promised, I dedicate my first ever blog entry (I mean except for the other one) to my mum, who influenced me SO MUCH in engaging in this kind of activity. (Why do I sound like I'm giving a debut speech?)***

We were strangers,

We came from two different places,

You're from the north while I'm off to the south

But we met in the metropolitan.

We spoke two different dialects,

But we understood each other.

We came up with different clique,

But we were still connected.

We were friends even we were apart.

We took pictures together, 

Watched movies together,

We sang our throats out together.

We shared crazy stories,

We laughed at our mistakes,

We consoled each other at times of distress,

We held hands when out hearts skipped beats.

Ypu held me when I was in tears,

You pat my shoulders when I was down,

You saved me from all my despair

And gave me my greatest consolation.

I give you kisses

To show you how much I treasure you.

i give you hugs for free

To show you how much you mean to me.

Lucky I am to have a friend like you

Lucky I am to have someone to talk to

Lucky I am to have someone to care to

Lucky I am to share my greatest memories with you.

Have you felt so lucky?

Having able to meet someone like me.

Did you enjoyed my presence?

Because yours on mine is of importance.

I am grateful

To our God, the creator

For giving me this creation.

Now, please spell L-U-C-K-Y for me.

My Mum, Sister, TRUE FRIEND Regli! 

I Love HER! Tagos sa heart! Pati sa Ribs! Internal Injury but that's okay! I love that kind of injury!

Anyone who tries to hurt her or make those precious tears fall from her eyes will have their price to pay, BLACKEYE!

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Hi, if you're wondering why I tried blogging? Oh well, let me say it's INFLUENCE.

Maybe it's just proper to define myself before I keep on posting my thoughts here and allowing people to read it.

I go with the birth name of Janelle Irish Velasco Villanueva, long right? Trust me. it's a problem if you're writing it in a 1/8 pad of paper.

Born in December 15, 1991, so basically I'm 20 and turning 21, getting old is unavoidable.

I've finished school! Luckily, but I missed it.

I dance! And believe me, I love krumping, my forte.

I am a sinner, yeah I admit that, but I know for myself I HAVE A STRONG FAITH IN MY GOD.

a TOTALLY FOOL when it comes to LOVE...

I choose my friends, thanks to that awful memory now I know whom to trust.

Can be a crazy nerd sometimes, believe me I love talking with animation.

Wants my love story to became a fairy tale one...

KPOP! My cheer up medicine, my addiction, my dream... Want me to list them down? Nah! You know them later.

What more? Ah! By writing this blog, I want to prove that what is written in my title is a total opposite~! And you'll know me better.